This comes from the Phase 3 text by Dr. Thurman Fleet.
Jealousy
“If you are jealous; that is, if being a man, another man looks upon your wife’s body with lust in his eye, know that he never actually sees your wife. Your wife is not a body. She is a Soul, and mortal eye cannot see the Soul. Should this same man look at your beautiful car with desire in his eyes, do you become jealous, disturbed, angry? Of course not, but rather you feel complimented. You delight in having the multitude admire and desire your attractive car. It too has a body. One must use his god-given reason and intelligence and evaluate things correctly.
If your wife’s affection turns towards another after you once owned it completely, then know that through some fault of your own you lost it. Why did you lose your wife’s affection? Ask yourself, for surely you know. What are you to do in such a case? Win her back if you want her. If not, then mentally let her go and know this truth. If you feel that your happiness depends upon some person, place, or thing, then you are pitifully deluded. Happiness is inherent in the Soul and always comes from within.” (I bolded that sentence for emphasis)
Criticism
“Next comes Criticism. Are you carrying around a heavy bundle labeled Criticism? If so, then regardless of what you see, or whom you come into contact with, you will utilize this weapon whenever you can. It is a habit. You will be inclined to find fault, pick to pieces, undermine, and otherwise state your opinion in a detrimental way. Be smart. Know that God rules the universe, and He has given to individuals their peculiarities, quirks of personality, and idiosyncrasies. Learn to adapt yourself to individual differences. Accept people as they are unless, when indicated, you can, through constructive criticism or instruction, assist another in his evolution. God made each individual as he is for a purpose, so do not find fault but rather ADAPT YOURSELF.”
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“If you are jealous; that is, if being a man, another man looks upon your wife’s body with lust in his eye, know that he never actually sees your wife. Your wife is not a body. She is a Soul, and mortal eye cannot see the Soul. ”
You know…the feeling comes so naturally and you don’t have much control over it. especially if you love her so much. at least you won’t feel comfortable if this happens.
Hi Omid. The more you practice and learn this stuff, the less effect those old destructive traits will have on you. You might not even get jealous anymore and if you do, you’ll have new ways of looking and coping with your jealousy.